Quando conheci o Michael, nossas conversas sobre dinheiro eram bem difíceis porque o perfil financeiro dele (você sabe o que é isso?) é bem diferente do meu. Normal, já que não estava procurando uma cópia minha! Nenhum dos dois sabia como o outro se relacionava com dinheiro.
Eu, macaca velha, estava determinada a não passar sufoco de novo com isso.
Ele fugia das conversas inicialmente porque pra ele, dinheiro nunca causou problema. Aos poucos, ele entendeu o quanto era importante pra mim esclarecer nossos pontos de vista. No passado, o homem cuidava das finanças da casa e as mulheres nem sabiam do que se passava. Felizmente as coisas mudaram pra que eu pudesse ser a 'mentora das finanças' daqui de casa!
Hoje nossas conversas são muito mais amigáveis (ainda nao sao perfeitas, viu?), fazemos planos juntos porque temos sonhos semelhantes e vamos conquistá-los juntos!
Você conhece seu perfil financeiro do seu parceiro? Sabe o que fazer para harmonizá-los quando são diferentes? O que vocês fazem para harmonizá-los quando são diferentes? O que vocês fazem pra lidar com isso?
Are you financially compatible with your partner? Perhaps you have never thought about that (or not!) up until now. Financial incompatibility is one of the biggest (if not the biggest) reason couples argue. I have gone through this myself in the past. Who hasn’t, raise their hand now!
When I met Michael, our conversations about money were really difficult because his financial profile (do you know what that is?) is very different to mine. This is absolutely normal as I wasn’t looking for an exact copy of myself, right? Neither of us knew how the other dealt with money. As I had had an unpleasant experience in the past, I was determined not to struggle with it again. At first he used to avoid the conversations because he had never experienced problems with money in past relationships.
Little by little he realised how important it was to me to be clear on our points of view. In a recent past, it was always the men who would take care of the family finances and the women had no or very little idea of what was going on. Fortunately, times have changed so I can be the financial mentor at home. Nowadays our conversations are much more amicable (but not perfect of course!), we plan things together, we dream together as we will achieve them together!
Do you know what your partner’s financial profile is? Do you know how your harmonise your profiles when they are different? What do you do to deal with it?
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